7 reasons why you should groom yourself and manscape
I’m not saying anything new if I tell you women generally spend a significant amount of time, energy and money on looking better. They dress well, wear nice lingerie, put on makeup, do their nails, wear perfume, wax… We’re fuckin lucky.
But as men, we don’t really have the same panel of ways to make ourselves look better. I mean, nothing prevents you from wearing makeup or lingerie, but let’s be honest : it’s culturally unusual for straight guys to do it, and will not attract most straight women.
Basically, the only ways we have are clothes/accessories, and grooming in general.
On one hand, it doesn’t leave us much leeway, but on the other hand, we’re not doing half as much as they do. I mean, I consider that I’m putting basically as much effort as a guy can make, and it’s still not a bother, honestly.
So I think we owe them that, but if you’re not convinced, here are 7 reasons why you should groom yourself and manscape.
1. Looking better, duh
It’s pretty obvious, but looking better will absolutely contribute to getting a better sex life. First, getting one at all, obviously.
But apart from that, even if you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s very important.
Just put yourself in her shoes : do you desire her more when she’s in a pretty dress, wearing a bit of make up, some nice perfume, and some lingerie under that ? Probably.
Of course, it doesn’t mean you have no desire for her if she doesn’t do all of these things. Actually, I think women would probably do all of that shit A LOT less if they knew how much just getting naked in front of us can basically completely replace it ^^
But it does put her to her advantage. Women usually develop a sense of how to use clothes and makeup to make their particular body type and facial features more appealing, because they’re told they should do that very early on (which is quite fucked up, but is not today’s topic).
And when they master it, yes, it makes them hotter. That’s the goal.
And it’s the same for us. If you dress and groom in a way that makes you look hotter, spoiler alert : she’ll have more desire for you. That’s the point of being hotter.
And it’s really easier than you’d think. This will be the topic of the upcoming posts. No rocket science.
2. Feeling sexy will make you more confident
If you consistently succeeds in looking better, you’ll start to feel it. Of course, you’re not gonna become Henry Bloody Cavill. But still, it’ll change how you look at yourself.
The superficial reasons are because women in general, and your partner in particular if you’re in a relationship, will just react better to you. Actually, men too. Looking better is a known advantage in all aspects of life, including in work. Hotter people get more promotions, etc.
Unfair ? Yes. And you can’t change your genetics. But you can look significantly better by doing the right things.
But the main reason I think, is more internal. Spending time on looking good boosts confidence, because it communicates that you’re worth it. You’re worth the time and effort you put in to look the best you can with what life has given you.
And people see that too. People who put some effort into their appearance usually project confidence, so they’re gonna assume you will, and treat you like such, so you’ll feel it and project more confidence. It’s a virtuous cycle.
I know that firsthand. When I was 19 and decided to take the matter of my non-existent sex life into my own hands, the first thing I was told was “first, you need to change your looks”.
So I instantly cut my hair, and bought some more fitting clothes. I was not there yet, with all the awkwardness of a late-bloomer teen who hasn’t come into himself yet, but it helped tremendously right away.
It took some time for me to find a style that was both good for my (very particular) body type and my personality, and it was reinforced by the confidence I gained in the meantime.
So don’t neglect this.
3. Looking sexy is the start of foreplay
I’ll talk more about “foreplay” one day (I don’t like the word), but for me, it starts really early, before you’re even touching actually.
Putting some special effort in your appearance not only will make her think about sex with you more, but also will make her feel special.
I mean, when my fiancée inexplicably spends some extra time in the bathroom, and comes out in nice lingerie with a naughty look on her face, I feel special. She looks hotter, of course, but if I’m gonna be honest, we’ve fucked hundreds of times when none of us were really looking at our best ^^ So the absence of lingerie doesn’t really stop me.
But it’s nice, because she just did all that just for me. That feels great !
And spoiler alert : it’s exactly the same for her. If you put some special effort in your appearance, she’ll notice.
4. Showing your commitment
We’re in the 2020’s, and women are painfully aware of how fucked they’ve been in the past (and present), and rightfully wanna change that. There are many battlefields, but the level of demand on general grooming and efforts in appearance is one of the easiest to solve.
That’s why younger women have massively opted out of some practices, like regularly waxxing.
And you know what ? I don’t believe the main reason is because it takes time, effort and money. I think the main reason is we’re not equal on the subject. They make all these efforts, and then men go around in dirty 10-year old t-shirts, hair and beard unkept, and maybe not even showered that day.
I’m pushing it a bit of course, but I understand where they’re coming from : why the fuck would they bother ?
I’m gonna confess something : I’m a millenial, so yeah, I still prefer when women shave their armpits and wax their pussies, and are generally “conventionally feminine”. Forgive me Father-in-Woke, cause I have sinned.
A significant part of y’all probably do too.
That being said :
Having this preference doesn’t give you the right to demand that, especially if you’re not putting much effort in your appearance.
Being well kept at all times is the best way to have your significant other tend to do the same. It’s unlikely she’ll see you groom and manscape regularly and doesn’t wanna match your level of effort.
5. She’ll want to suck your dick more
Ok, do I have your attention now ? 😀 I knew I would !
Guys, have you seen a dick from upclose ? Like a normal-sized dick, with no manscaping whatsoever, with all the hairs ?
Probably not if you’re straight, but honestly, find some amateur video somewhere to actually know what it looks like. You need that empathy. Does it look appealing ?
“Well no, because I don’t like dick.”
Sure, but compared to a dick with a trimmed bush and shaved balls, which one looks the less gross to you ? Be honest.
If you HAD to look at one for 5 minutes, which one would you choose ?
You know I’m right.
Well, even the most dick-loving woman will usually feel the same. A well-kept cock is more appealing to most people, which usually ends up in more blowjobs.
(of course, there are gonna be women who prefer if you do absolutely nothing down there, but in my experience they’re not the majority. I’ve had very precise compliments on this dozen of times. The last one was something like “wow, the line is VERY crisp”. And she wasn’t talking about my neckline ;) They notice.)
If that’s not a reason to go manscape right now, I don’t know what is.
Everyone wants more blowjobs, that’s the only certain thing in the world, beside death and taxes.
6. You’ll get more pleasure from said dick-suckin
You’re gonna need to trust me on this one if you’ve never tried : having your smooth balls licked is out. of. this. world.
Well, not for everyone I guess. Of course it also depends a lot on your sensitivity and your partner skills. But have you tried ? You should. Just to be sure you’re not passing on something amazing.
If you already like having them touched, I can guarantee 100% you’ll LOVE it.
Also if you like deepthroat, it’s more appealing to girls to go deep if the base of your shaft is not full of hairs. No one likes to find a pubic hair stuck in their teeth.
7. You’ll stand out from other men
I’m gonna need you to imagine something right now. Take the thing you miss the most in women you meet.
It can be anything. A deep knowledge of J.R.R. Tolkien’s work, a piercing on the right nipple, a PhD, the ability to cook perfect eggs Benedict, short hairs, a vegetable kink, having the Little Prince as their favorite book, … anything.
Ok, now imagine you meet a woman who has that thing. You’ll be instantly more interested, right ? It probably wouldn’t be enough, of course. I doubt loving Tolkien systematically equals being attractive, intelligent, emotionally compatible with you, and having the same values.
But still, real bonus point right ?
Well, a man who takes care of himself is pretty rare. Maybe not as rare as cooking perfect eggs Benedict (seriously, what the fuck is this witchcraft ?), but still.
So if you take care of yourself, you’ll seriously stand out. That doesn’t replace everything, but it certainly helps. Sex and pleasure is based a lot on desire. The mere fact of having more desire for someone will make one more receptive to pleasure, so the sex will be better. Basically, you’re not going to war with nothing on your back. You’re coming prepared.
Ok, hopefully, now you’re convinced you should make an effort to groom yourself and manscape. But how exactly ?
That’s the topic in the next posts in this series : how to groom yourself, and how to manscape.